4 Power Plays For Winning Your Ex Girlfriend Back

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By Erick Hastings


Wanting to get back together with your ex girlfriend or your wife is a simple issue of mind over matter. You will find that your attitude has more to do with your success in your relationship with the woman of your dreams than anything else. While a woman might hear your words fine, she will judge you by your actions. You goal should be to show her with your actions that you are strong, fun to be around and the best man for her. You are confident and you need to instill a feeling of security in her when she is with you.

Being rejected by the woman you love can be stressful and demoralizing. If you have fallen apart in front of your girlfriend or wife because you are upset or emotionally wounded by her departure then you are normal. This doesn't mean that these emotional display aren't helping you. These emotions are probably linked to the true reason why she decided to leave you though. She might not even realize it but there is a very good chance that it is a lack of respect on her part that caused her to change how she thinks of you or views you as a man. Surely, she gave you many excuses for why she was leaving but these weren't the true reason. The root cause for why a woman usually leaves a relationship is usually how she feels about that man. It should be your goal to change how she thinks and feels about you. Avoid the temptation to cry, beg, plead or even ask about the possibility of getting back together at all cost. As a matter of fact, avoid all contact with your ex until you have your life back together and your attitude has changed.

Your attitude towards your ex girlfriend or your wife is everything. Although this may sound difficult for you, having the attitude that you are willing to simply walk away is how you must be perceived. If you see her and she starts to yell at you or act disrespectful towards you, simply walk away. She is not a part of your life anymore. She is not your girlfriend or your wife and you will not tolerate this kind of treatment from her. Tell her so, turn your back to her and walk away. You might be surprised that she will come running after you. It happens and if she is accustomed to you standing there and taking her abuse then this will be a huge change for her. She will respect you for this and she will begin to see you differently.

Being cool and calm in the face of adversity and reigning in your emotions is important. Resist the temptation to argue with her or show any sign that you're still upset about the break up. Your new attitude must be positive and optimistic. Your new life is filled with possibilities. You are happy and looking forward to what life has in store for you. You are in the process of rebuilding your life. You have a direction and you have goals and dreams for what you wish to accomplish in life. You might even feel happy about the freedom that this break up has given you. No matter what, you are happy because women find men that are happy and optimistic about life very attractive. If you find yourself confronted with negative emotions or you become upset over something, remember that you must be happy at all costs. If you feel completely overwhelmed, find a place where you can be alone for five minutes to regain your composure. Tell yourself that things will change and that your life is getting better and better all the time. Remind yourself that you must appear happy and in control at all times. Men are capable of such strength and you are a real man.

Control in a relationship or which partner wears the pants is always a struggle. Women often test a man and if you look back on events in your relationship you will agree that this is true. Now that your girlfriend or wife has left you, she may still attempt to test you or tell you what to do. Take control back and passively teach her that you are the man and that you'll make the decisions. She really doesn't want to make the decisions in the relationship. No woman does. It is all a test to see how strong you are as a man. The next time she attempts to exert her authority in your life by stating her opinion or actually telling you what you should do, make your own decision. For instance, let's say that you agree to meet and she suggests a time and place. Instead of agreeing, change the time and place to one more convenient for you. Even if you have to create an excuse, taking control in this small matter will help her to see that things have changed in your life. You're not trying to be difficult. Her suggestion simply does not suit you and you are making a decision.

Confidence is a very important trait in a man. Women love a man that is confident and sure of himself. This confidence can be seen in his body language, his tone of voice as well as the look on his face. A real man doesn't worry about anything and he knows that things will work out for him. If you were formerly worried about everything, scared that bad things were going to happen or if you lacked the self-confidence to do even the simplest things, it's time to change that. Do whatever you need to do to build your self-confidence. Positive self-talk and telling yourself that you are strong, confident and awesome are a step in the right direction. When she sees you next, you want her to notice that you don't have a care in the world. You're free and confident about your place in this world. You're not worried about getting her back. Even if she is with another man, you know inside that it isn't going to last. She will regret her decision to leave you and she will be coming back to you because you're confident.

Relationships can be difficult at times. Loving a woman often gives them a lot of power in a relationship. It's sad when a woman takes advantage of that power and your kindness but you can take that power back and also restore the love that she once had for you. It's strange but women want what they feel they can not have. By following the suggestions here she will pick up on the fact that you are not the same man that she broke up with and you're not willing to grovel or beg for her to come back to her. This will all be highly attractive to her and before you know it she will become curious about what is going on in your life. The sooner you rebuild your life and become the man, the sooner she will come back to you. Be strong, be a man and get your ex girlfriend or wife back before some other guy takes her away from you completely.




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