Having The Proper Attitude To Get Your Girl Back
Your desire to get back together with your ex-girlfriend or wife is very normal. The loss of someone that you care about in your life can be devastating. If your ex was a part of your life every day then you might be feeling a little lost and lonely. The rejection from the breakup has taken a toll on your ego, your self-esteem and your confidence. While you search for a solution and wait for your ex to come back, it is important that you remain cool and calm. When it comes to your relationship, your attitude has everything to do with your success.
Trying everything under the sun to make your ex change her mind and come back to you is typical. You try talking, being nice, being mean, buying gifts, writing poetry, sending cards and anything else that you can think of after a breakup to get the woman you love to come back to you. What you probably didn't realize is that none of this stuff works unless she has a desire to be with you. Begging, pleading and talking only make you look weak and needy. If you are kicking yourself now, don't worry. Give her some time and change your attitude and you can still get her back. Of course, it's going to require that you refrain from continuing with this behavior. This means no more calling her, apologizing to her or going out of your way to talk to her until the time is right. You will know that the time is right to call her and try to open the lines of communication when you don't think about her or feel that overwhelming desire to hear her voice. Of course, it's always better if she contacts you first.
Your primary focus now is to change how your ex-girlfriend or potential future ex-wife thinks about you. This is going to require you to change your general attitude towards her and women overall. What will this attitude be like? Your attitude should be one where you are unwilling to tolerate being talked down to or treated in any way that makes you feel uncomfortable. If your ex does make you feel uncomfortable or upset, you need to be willing ahead of time to walk away both from the relationship as well as the conversation. Always keep this in mind and remind yourself of this new attitude and it will be felt by your ex-girlfriend if not seen by her the next time she starts treating you poorly.
Along with this new attitude you need to put any thought out of your mind that concerns how she will react to your new attitude. It's going to be a little shocking for her, that's for sure. If she is accustomed to yelling at you or calling you names, she is accustomed to holding all the power in the relationship. If, in the past, you stood there and took this abuse or if you tried to argue with her or explain yourself, those days are through. From now on, you will remind her that she is not your partner, girlfriend or wife. She relinquished that title and the right to state her opinion about anything when she left you. You will turn and literally walk away from the conversation and take that power with you. She will do one of two things. She will either come after you immediately and apologize or she will think about what just happened for a while. She will then have gained some respect for you as a man and the process of falling in love with you will begin.
If you have every let your wife or ex-girlfriend see you upset, crying or emotionally distraught over your breakup, that has to end. Never let your ex know that you're upset, sad, lonely or missing them. Always have a smile on your face or a happy demeanor any time you're in public and especially when you see your ex. Your body language should be of a man that is confident, secure and happy with life. You have the freedom now to create the life that you dream about and you feel good about yourself. The sky is the limit and every day you are getting better and better. You have a lot going for you and you are free to live your life the way you want.
You might worry that your ex-girlfriend or wife will take your new found confidence as a slap in the face. You might think that she will think that you don't care about her anymore or that you don't want her back. That's fine. Let her think that. Let her ask you about it. Life is for living and we all only have a certain number of days on this earth to live. If she wants to be a part of that life then that would be great but if not, you still have to be happy. You deserve to be happy. You deserve to have everything that you ever desired in life. You're a new man. Never let her see you sweat and never let her see you cry.
While you're waiting for your girlfriend or wife to come back to you, this is your time to shine. This is your time to not only rebuild your life but build the kind of life that you dream about. You have a choice. You can waste precious days, weeks or months being upset, sad and lonely or you can make plans for what you wish to accomplish with your life. Make a list of your dreams and goals. Think big and don't hold anything back. Your breakup might be the best thing that ever happened to you. You get a fresh start on life. Whether your girlfriend or wife wants to be a part of it is up to her but who wouldn't want to be a part of the life that you are creating?
With a strong, positive attitude you can change your life and change how your ex thinks and feels about you. Your fears are unfounded and you will find later on down the road that all the things that you are worrying about are wrong. You might think that your ex will be upset if you don't appear to miss her when in actuality she will feel sad herself. You worry about moving on with your life because you fear that your ex will think that this means that you don't love her. The truth is that she will feel left out and begin to feel attracted to you because of your new attitude. Take the bull by the horns and stand up for yourself. Be strong and you will find that your ex and every other woman on the face of the planet will find you more attractive. Soon your ex will be knocking on your door or calling you on the phone to find out how you are and what you've been up to. This is the first sign that she wants to get back together. Will you be prepared to talk to her when that moment comes?
Trying everything under the sun to make your ex change her mind and come back to you is typical. You try talking, being nice, being mean, buying gifts, writing poetry, sending cards and anything else that you can think of after a breakup to get the woman you love to come back to you. What you probably didn't realize is that none of this stuff works unless she has a desire to be with you. Begging, pleading and talking only make you look weak and needy. If you are kicking yourself now, don't worry. Give her some time and change your attitude and you can still get her back. Of course, it's going to require that you refrain from continuing with this behavior. This means no more calling her, apologizing to her or going out of your way to talk to her until the time is right. You will know that the time is right to call her and try to open the lines of communication when you don't think about her or feel that overwhelming desire to hear her voice. Of course, it's always better if she contacts you first.
Your primary focus now is to change how your ex-girlfriend or potential future ex-wife thinks about you. This is going to require you to change your general attitude towards her and women overall. What will this attitude be like? Your attitude should be one where you are unwilling to tolerate being talked down to or treated in any way that makes you feel uncomfortable. If your ex does make you feel uncomfortable or upset, you need to be willing ahead of time to walk away both from the relationship as well as the conversation. Always keep this in mind and remind yourself of this new attitude and it will be felt by your ex-girlfriend if not seen by her the next time she starts treating you poorly.
Along with this new attitude you need to put any thought out of your mind that concerns how she will react to your new attitude. It's going to be a little shocking for her, that's for sure. If she is accustomed to yelling at you or calling you names, she is accustomed to holding all the power in the relationship. If, in the past, you stood there and took this abuse or if you tried to argue with her or explain yourself, those days are through. From now on, you will remind her that she is not your partner, girlfriend or wife. She relinquished that title and the right to state her opinion about anything when she left you. You will turn and literally walk away from the conversation and take that power with you. She will do one of two things. She will either come after you immediately and apologize or she will think about what just happened for a while. She will then have gained some respect for you as a man and the process of falling in love with you will begin.
If you have every let your wife or ex-girlfriend see you upset, crying or emotionally distraught over your breakup, that has to end. Never let your ex know that you're upset, sad, lonely or missing them. Always have a smile on your face or a happy demeanor any time you're in public and especially when you see your ex. Your body language should be of a man that is confident, secure and happy with life. You have the freedom now to create the life that you dream about and you feel good about yourself. The sky is the limit and every day you are getting better and better. You have a lot going for you and you are free to live your life the way you want.
You might worry that your ex-girlfriend or wife will take your new found confidence as a slap in the face. You might think that she will think that you don't care about her anymore or that you don't want her back. That's fine. Let her think that. Let her ask you about it. Life is for living and we all only have a certain number of days on this earth to live. If she wants to be a part of that life then that would be great but if not, you still have to be happy. You deserve to be happy. You deserve to have everything that you ever desired in life. You're a new man. Never let her see you sweat and never let her see you cry.
While you're waiting for your girlfriend or wife to come back to you, this is your time to shine. This is your time to not only rebuild your life but build the kind of life that you dream about. You have a choice. You can waste precious days, weeks or months being upset, sad and lonely or you can make plans for what you wish to accomplish with your life. Make a list of your dreams and goals. Think big and don't hold anything back. Your breakup might be the best thing that ever happened to you. You get a fresh start on life. Whether your girlfriend or wife wants to be a part of it is up to her but who wouldn't want to be a part of the life that you are creating?
With a strong, positive attitude you can change your life and change how your ex thinks and feels about you. Your fears are unfounded and you will find later on down the road that all the things that you are worrying about are wrong. You might think that your ex will be upset if you don't appear to miss her when in actuality she will feel sad herself. You worry about moving on with your life because you fear that your ex will think that this means that you don't love her. The truth is that she will feel left out and begin to feel attracted to you because of your new attitude. Take the bull by the horns and stand up for yourself. Be strong and you will find that your ex and every other woman on the face of the planet will find you more attractive. Soon your ex will be knocking on your door or calling you on the phone to find out how you are and what you've been up to. This is the first sign that she wants to get back together. Will you be prepared to talk to her when that moment comes?
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